Creating a New Normal...After the Death of a Child Sandy Fox's new book Creating a New Normal...After the Death of a Child is now available for all bereaved parents, friends, grandparents, siblings and grief organizations. It consists of over 80 articles of coping techniques and informational skills to help any bereaved parent as they move through the grief process. Readers will also be able to learn how to get through the holidays, read 10 inspirational stories from those who have been there, delve into the abundant resource section and read a variety of book descriptions of other literature in the field. Topics include anger, journaling, taking care of yourself, making a marriage work, childless issues, preserving a child's memory, grief triggers, confronting negative statements, workplace grief, recognizing guilt, how men and women grieve, forgiveness, going to the cemetery, inspirational music, signs from our children, finding organizations for volunteering, how to start a support group, starting a foundation, and many more. You can purchase the book online at Barnes and Noble, Amazon, Centering.org, iUniverse.com, and any independent or national bookstore. Click on one of the links below for quicker results. The book has already won three awards: finalist in the Health/Death and Dying category of the "Best Books 2010" awards, sponsored by USA Book News; a finalist in ForeWord Reviews "2010 Best Books" awards; and a finalist in the self-help category of the "2011 Next Generation Indie Book Awards." In addition Sandy has two articles in the new "Open To Hope" book. Click on the following link to view a youtube video giving more details of this book. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCn2rRe6mn0 Book reviews and comments: "Sandy Fox has taken a personal tragedy and turned it into not just a life changing experience but one filled with memory, hope and positive behavior. I found her book to be a highly readable work, filled with many important techniques and methods for dealing with the one thing no parent wants to face as well as what to expect from grief itself. Fox fills an important niche in the informational wealth available to us today. In a nation filled with self-help and furthering understanding, there is a notable lack of material available to those facing loss. This book helps fill that gap well..." Molly Martin, reviewer for Author's Den 'Sandy has written a very emotional, yet educational book, on coping skills for families and friends after the death of a child, one of the most devastating events to occur in our lives. The author also talks about what others can do to help, commonalities that grieving parents go through, and holidays being another source of pain for many. The stories throughout this book were excellent in that finally parents could talk about what they need in time of a loss. Does anyone ask them other than saying, 'Let me know if I can do anything for you.' Every chapter brings more knowledge and makes readers really look at how one reacts when a child dies. Read it, mark it up and share it with others..." Carol Hoyer, PhD, for Reader Views Sandys Fox's latest book is one for EVERYONE to read! I am not a parent who has lost a child, yet I have friends and family who have. It seems as though I never know what the right or wrong things to say or do are, which is what initially brought me to read Sandy's book; hoping for some guidance. Had I not wanted to read the book cover to cover, the "topic specific" table of contents would have guided me to the exact subjects that were of interest to me. There were many topics that I assumed I knew about, but quickly learned that I wasn't as aware, nor knowledgeable, as I thought I was. For instance, it was interesting to learn in what ways women and men grieve differently and understanding various ways that people cope with the death of a child. I learned appropriate and inappropriate responses to bereaved parents; something that I had constantly feared in conversations.Sandy tells about an annual worldwide candle lighting for all children who have died, held on the second Sunday in December. I never knew of the existence of such a touching event, yet I will be sure to share this valuable information with friends who would benefit from such a special remembrance. Throughout this book, there are suggestions, ideas and advice both from Sandy's personal experiences, after the death of her own daughter, and from other parents that she has learned from during her extensive nationwide speaking engagements at bereavement conferences.This book is filled with priceless wisdom that anyone would find helpful and useful. ....Jill Garcia, mom
"I lost my 15-year-old daughter December 2007 from a nine-month battle with cancer. I, like you,have pictures in each room of her, and as you, a box of special things in my closet I love to go through. I want to thank you for your writings." ...Stephanie Jayebert, bereaved mother "My 4-year-old son drowned while visiting at his father's house January 2009. Nothing could prepare me for the devastation, confusion, sorrow and pain that I feel. Your writings...give me direction, hope and compassion. I don't feel so alone when reading them." ...Alison Starbuck, bereaved mother ___________________________________
I Have No Intention of Saying Good-bye
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Sandy's first grief book consists of 25 stories about hope, healing and surviving grief after a child's death is available through Barnes and Noble.com, Amazon.com, Books a Million.com, iUniverse.com, and Centering.org. It can also be ordered through any local bookstore or Sandy's email address listed below. Five or more years after the death of their children, 25 families open their hearts and share stories of courage, hope and attempts to make sense out of the most unbearable loss of all. They speak of what they did to move on with their lives, to make each day meaningful again, while remembering their child. Stories deal with children of all ages and a variety of backgrounds. They include deaths from accidents, suicides, miscarriages, stillbirths, sickness, drugs and alcohol. Parents explain what they have done over the years since their child or all their children died and how they channeled their grief constructively by setting up memorials for their child, working as volunteers, getting their cause through the legislature and for some, turning to spirituality. In addition to helping themselves, these parents also help others and give advice to those still having difficulty living in a world without their child. Those not bereaved find this book helpful in learning how to deal with and what to say to a grieving parent. Losing a child is the most unbearable loss of all. These brave parents let us into their world in the hope that others will understand what they are going through.
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Author Sandy Fox has been a journalist her entire life, from working for a daily newspaper to teaching journalism for 28 years. Five years after daughter Marcy's death, she began a two year project of interviewing parents from all over the United States who have lost children. Marcy's story is part of the project of her first book. Then nine years later after seeing a need for coping techniques, she wrote her second book. Sandy continues to write for magazines and speaks to groups and at national bereavement conferences across the country on grief. Contact her to set up a speaking engagement. Visit Sandy's weekly blog at www.survivinggrief.blogspot.com for additional information, thoughts and stories on grief and www.opentohope.com where you will find many writings by Sandy on the grief topic, along with an interview done Dec. 2, 2010.
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 | Reviews of first book | | | "As a father who has lost a child, I know about the journey through grief. Sandy Fox has written a wonderful book about the way we heal. This is must reading for anyone who has lost a child, for therapists or for anyone guiding others through the pain of healing." Stephen J. Cannell, TV writer, bestselling author and bereaved parent | | | "Your book will educate people on this very tough subject. In a time when parents are overcome by grief and disbelief, hearing parents' personal accounts of how they dealt with their child's death will give strength to your readers. I commend you for taking your grief and turning it into something positive." Danielle Steel, bestselling author and bereaved parent |
And More Reviews from readers of Sandy's first book... "This book will be immensely helpful to people who have suffered the loss of a child, no matter the age. To read about others who share their stories will be an experience that both validates and supports. Mental health workers will also find this book a valuable resource that offers hope and understanding for those who need it most." Joan Silver, M.S., retired psychotherapist "Nothing in life prepares one for losing a child. But for those of us who have lost a child, there is much to learn from the shattered worlds of the parents who have come before us. This book opens a window into the post-death lives of 24 parents who have lost a child or multiple children. Parents whose children have died often feel very alone. If you are such a parent, this book will help you to see how much you have in common with other parents, and will give you a glimpse into how you might develop a meaningful future out of today's darkness." Bernard Faller, bereaved father "When a Mom or Dad finds himself or herself thrust into the desperate world of hopeless heartbreak, any endeavor is nearly impossible. Reading, understanding or remembering what you read is a monumental task. When the motivation to seek answers, information or insight peeks through the stifling sadness, then Sandy Fox has written a book that will help. It is easy to read. It is sad. It is full of hope. Practical suggestions exist within its pages put forward by parents that have had children die too soon, from every cause, at every age. There are stories from 25 different situations that range in length from a few pages to never more than eight, so the reading is short and to the point. You can put the book down and return without feeling lost. Sandy also tells her 'Marcy' story as only a parent who has suffered life"s greatest loss can recount. It is like sitting at a Compassionate Friends meeting in private. This book can help." Pat O'Donnell, bereaved parent "...In her book Ms Fox reveals the similarity of the pain parents suffer when a child dies and the many and varied ways they dealt with it. It is an enlightening study of grief and redemption, of anger and epiphany...What catches the reader's attention is the simplicity and honesty with which she and those she interviewed reveal their deepest and, sometimes, darkest pain. The result is an enlightening and emotional journey that leaves one both aching for these people and applauding their strength and courage." Elizabeth Burton, author _____________________________________________________ For additional information on either book or useful tips for the bereaved, send me your name and email address, and I will be happy to respond to your request. Send to sfoxaz@hotmail.com with a subject line: grief resources. For weekly information, coping techniques, book reviews, poetry and personal stories on surviving grief and moving on with your life, see Sandy's personal blog she does every Sunday: www.survivinggrief.blogspot.com SEE LINKS BELOW TO ORDER EITHER BOOK
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